My friend Nita Mehta is interested in understanding emotional abuse; in my understanding most emotional abuse is self-inflicted.
Yes, any suppression of our own natural, spontaneous, instinctive, and intuitive emotions is emotional abuse.
When we have abused ourselves so much that the emotions cannot be suppressed anymore, we begin to abuse others - whether emotionally or physically.
I have learnt that only an abused person can abuse others; only a hurt person can hurt others, and only a victim of violence can be violent towards others.
In that sense, each one of us is the victim and the perpetrator of abuse. As the saying goes, "Hamam Mein Sab Nange Hain."
Containing or eliminating violence is a collective responsibility.
Please attend a workshop (or read Marshal's book) on Non-violent communication, Nita; it will open your eyes to all kinds of emotional crimes each of us commits on a daily basis.
Perhaps I should create such a workshop too....:)
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