I have realized that in our zeal to do good/ change systems/ lead better lives/ help others we tend to focus upon what is ‘wrong’ with us/ the systems/ people/ situations/ country/ world etc. Hence, even though we begin with noble intentions, we get mired in all the negativity, which sucks us in, making us offensive/ defensive/ loud/ righteous/ indignant/ and holier-than-thou! In other words, we become exactly what we wish to change in others!
And despite our good intentions end up creating nothing more than noise/ judgments/ criticism/ Them Vs Us paradigm! And needless to say, it doesn’t help anyone, including us.
On the other hand, if we look at each issue/ problem/ system/ person/ country/ world etc with a focus on “What’s right with it/ him/ her/them”, we shall find something that can be worked at/ worked with in order to create sustainable solutions.
This line of questioning will also put everything in right perspective for us, letting us decide whether something is worth working at or deserves to be released/ let go of/ destroyed/ re-constructed/ re-structured.
For example, in case of a personal turmoil- especially in marital arena- the partners can look at what is ‘right’ with their marriage/ partnership; alongside what is wrong with it- and then weigh the two lists. If the ‘right’ one has more weight in it; they should work at making the marriage tick once again; and on the other hand, if the ‘wrong’ list is longer, they should gracefully/ mutually let each other go! This makes life much simpler and more rewarding!
After all, every situation/ person/ thing/ institution has something that is right with it/ him/ her/ them…Let’s find that ‘right’, in order to make it ‘right-er’……:)
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