Most of us (especially mothers) feel anxious when our kids begin to drive on our ‘killer’ roads, sharing the precious space with speeding drivers on cell-phones. We see or hear of so many accidents that we feel our fears are justified. But are do actually doing a dis-service to our children by fearing/ worrying/ nagging/ being lovingly overprotective?
While it is natural to want to protect our children from any danger coming from outside or from within them, we must remember that humans do not learn to take responsibility for their actions unless they are given the opportunity to be responsible. All sentient beings (including humans) are naturally grounded in the energy of self-preservation (the survival instinct), and we must trust this energy in our children.
We do great dis-service when we transfer our own fears to our children; telling them that they have something to fear about, regardless of how prepared they might be! When children sense our fears, the fears become more real to them and they begin to fear as well. This added energy calls our fears into being and more often than not becomes a cause for accidents. Is that what we truly want?
In a world where potential dangers (traffic, crazy fellow beings, vagaries of nature etc) lurk around every corner, it is good to say (and believe), “All is well in my world.” With this thought in mind we can allow our children to make their choices and follow their heart- and this applies not only to driving but life itself.
Let us not let our fears arouse our children’s fears……..:))
Remember- Whenever we feel fearful about something, it is an indication that our soul wants us to understand some things.
While it is natural to want to protect our children from any danger coming from outside or from within them, we must remember that humans do not learn to take responsibility for their actions unless they are given the opportunity to be responsible. All sentient beings (including humans) are naturally grounded in the energy of self-preservation (the survival instinct), and we must trust this energy in our children.
We do great dis-service when we transfer our own fears to our children; telling them that they have something to fear about, regardless of how prepared they might be! When children sense our fears, the fears become more real to them and they begin to fear as well. This added energy calls our fears into being and more often than not becomes a cause for accidents. Is that what we truly want?
In a world where potential dangers (traffic, crazy fellow beings, vagaries of nature etc) lurk around every corner, it is good to say (and believe), “All is well in my world.” With this thought in mind we can allow our children to make their choices and follow their heart- and this applies not only to driving but life itself.
Let us not let our fears arouse our children’s fears……..:))
Remember- Whenever we feel fearful about something, it is an indication that our soul wants us to understand some things.
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